10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

by Raising Perspectives 0

There are no wrongs and there are no rights. There are only experiences and these experiences leave meaningful lessons. If you are closing a chapter in your life or struggling to find momentum, know that when everything goes wrong….

10. Pain Helps You Grow

As the old saying goes, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. But before this strength can emerge, you must accept your pain.

Each time a tragic event occurs that you think you can’t handle, it is common to try to remove yourself from it altogether. But each time you do this, you leave a piece of yourself behind. When you disassociate yourself with your pain, you cause a split to occur within you. Commonly known as soul splitting.

By embracing your pain and bringing it within to heal, you empower your own growth.

We grow most through difficult experiences, so embrace it. Let the darkness shape you, let it reform you, let it cradle you and birth you into a new life and a new way of being.

9. Your Biggest Fears Are an Illusion

Fear will only go as far as you let it. You are always the one in control, so take control! What you resist persists; by avoiding what you fear, it will only grow.

The more you focus on fearful things, the more you put yourself in vibrational alignment with them. As we know the opposite of love is fear, and so when you dwell in fear, you are rejecting love.

The essence of love is acceptance. Accepting all things as they come, as they are and as they will be.

Fear is the largest illusion one will face. An illusion of the ego, a slight of hand, to contain you in lower consciousness, a state of action and reaction– the survival instinct that man must evolve beyond.

If you think about it, the largest fears we face can be summed up to the fear of the unknown. Whether it be of death, loss or the future. We live in the world everyday not knowing what the world will bring us around the next corner.

But what is fear? Fear is only an emotion. An emotion that has transpired from your own thought forms. By practicing awareness, you can learn how to separate yourself from your own thoughts and emotions. You are not your emotions. You are not your thoughts. You are the observer.

F.E.A.R= False Emotions Appearing Real

8. Nothing Lasts Forever

When the darkness passes, the light emerges. When life seems to be gliding smoothly along, enjoy it. When your troubles come your way, embrace them. Every ending is a new beginning.

7. Even the small struggles are a step forward
In the pursuit of happiness, patience does not mean waiting. Patience is continually working hard on your dreams and keeping a positive attitude. Achieving your dreams isn’t easy, it can come with sacrifices in your relationships, a lot of time alone and dealing with others who just don’t understand. It’s a test of your determination. Just how bad do you want it? If you want it bad enough you’ll do anything. You’ll discover that you are no longer walking the path, you are paving the way and it’s worth it.

6. Good and Bad are Just an Opinion

Life is not black and white, no matter how hard you try to make it that way. Its more like 50 shades of grey. It may seem unfair in some instances, when things happen you wished you could change. But you will see in time, that everything happens for a reason, and nothing happens by chance.

The idea of what is good and bad, right and wrong are moral guidelines you identify with to ensure at the end of the day, you can lay down in your bed at night and say “I’m a good person”. People aren’t good or bad, there are things we can do that are hurtful to others and ourselves, or things that we can do that are loving to others and ourselves. When we identify with good and bad, right and wrong we become attached to the idea and cage ourselves.

You are free.

5. Change What You Can Change

You can’t change the experiences you’ve had, but you can change the way you feel about them. By changing your perspective you can change how you relate to the experiences in your life.

4. Be Kind to Yourself

Accept that you are doing the best you can and it is good enough. We tend to be our worst critics and by accepting ourselves we release the need for others to accept us.

3. Great Things Take Time

If you immediately manifested your every desire instantly by thought, then there would be no reason to incarnate. The soul grows the most during physical incarnation.

Instant gratification becomes stale and boring. We are here to experience the joy of anticipation, patience, commitment. All the while growing stronger in commitment and confidence.

Instant results are rarely the best results.  With patience, you can greatly expand your potential.  If your desires were always fulfilled immediately, you would have nothing to look forward to.  You would miss out on the joys of anticipation and progress.

Value that comes in an instant is gone just as fast. Value that takes your time and commitment to create will outlive the creator himself.

2. Life is an Adventure

Taking risks helps you grow and trying new things enhances your creativity. Success isn’t achieved without discomfort and by venturing this route you will challenge yourself.

Step out of your comfort zone. If it’s scary and exciting… DO IT!

1. Have Humility

Generally, it is said that humility relates to the ability to be humble or having a clear perspective and respect for one’s place in context.

But what isn’t mentioned, is that humility comes from humiliation and the feeling of humiliation is one of the hardest to cope with.

But with humility comes the understanding that things really aren’t as big as you make them out to be. You should never feel ashamed for anything. Love yourself, forgive yourself and accept that although you may have gone through hell and back, you are worthy. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

You are a beautiful human being, inside and out.

by LJ Vanier,