3 Reasons Why You Keep Attracting The Wrong Relationships

by LJ Vanier 0

“We attract what we are, not what we want”- Unknown

The world is nothing but a mirror and until we learn this, we will keep repeating the same old scenarios in our lives and expect different results. This is according to Albert Einstein, the definition of insanity.

However, we are not unintellectual nor do we repeat these patterns because we adore the torture. No, we find ourselves in these situations because the root cause is hidden from our awareness and until we can illuminate this unseen aspect of our consciousness, it will continue to wreak havoc in our lives.

In order to get to the root of the problem, we need to recognize three critical things, all which serve as an ego mask in order to keep us from discovering the truth.

3.You’re shifting blame.

We can’t accept what we don’t recognize and so increasing awareness of our thoughts, actions and emotions will help us navigate through our relationships. With a little introspection we can turn these thoughts inwards and prepend our healing.

2.You feel powerless

It’s easy to fall into victim mentality, an addict for instance, may become an addict because using a substance may feel like the only way he or she feels they can assume power and control over their life, where they otherwise feel powerless. We can then assume that this would stem from lack of trust, which would likely stem from an unstable childhood or adolescence; an event (series of events) which caused a mistrust, which began as an unhealed hurt or loss.

Assuming control in your life then begins with recognizing the root cause of the emotional wound and how it has grown. This simple act of recognition brings the conscious memory forward allowing for healing to take place and the rerouting of neurons in the brain which act and react to certain stimuli and send information to other nerve cells.

As it is understood, it is these unhealed emotional wounds that have formed cycles of activity or patterns of behaviour and when you start to recognize your cycle, you can clearly see the repeating pattern of conflict in your life that has plagued your heart and mind.

1.You need healing.

Love your enemies.

It has always been said that it is through our toughest challenges we learn the most. Why do you think that is?

There isn’t a relationship that we will come out of, that hasn’t taught us a thing or two and I believe the best relationships are the ones that hurt us the most.

Sounds a little backwards right? Let’s think about it.

Nothing can exist outside of you that didn’t already exist within you.

Every partner that you’ve ever been with in your life will resonate both the healed and unhealed aspects of yourself and so, we unconsciously draw those into our lives who will show us exactly what is un-illuminated within ourselves, manifesting as our chosen partner. We then play out the relationship “roles”until we learn the lesson or illuminate what was hidden from us.

As we all know, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and so every person is a projection of our own consciousness, and the question arises, why do we project such hate on some and such love on others? As it seems, some are here to help us grow in love and the special ones, help us grow from darkness to light. The only obstacle? Having the wisdom to see it.

If you are constantly finding yourself stuck in the same old relationship patterns and repeating the same cycles, you are unconsciously drawing yourself to the attention of what needs to be healed, as it manifests externally into different scenarios and people in your life. This, I believe is why it is believed that in every moment, no matter how tough, you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

By recognizing your cycle and finding your hidden root, this single action has an enormous impact on your life. A change that will broadcast and radiate a new energy, that resonates from inside of you of the greatest magnitude that will completely shift your life in a whole new direction

by LJ Vanier,

Originally published here at isoulscience.com July 7, 2016 by LJ Vanier